“You are Mine!”… Really?
When you introduce a partner, girlfriend or boyfriend to someone, I expect you refer to them as “my” girl/boyfriend. We think nothing of it, as a mere social convention, but pause for a moment and go deeper….
Every time we refer to someone as “mine”, we are affirming that they belong to us. And as such, we possess them and can make demands on them. They should look a certain way, and behave in a desired fashion. In the name of love, we place them in shackles. We control them ( and they control us!)
Living in a more awakened state allows us to be in a relationship consciously .
So examine the expectations you impose on a partner: is your love for them conditional? In a conscious relationship we can be very honest with ourselves, and heal through it. With conscious awareness, we can transcend the possessiveness, jealousy and controlling aspects of our egoic thought system.
In this extract of a talk given at the ITC course, Jason explores this subject with depth and humour…