Transcending Grief and Loss
When we lose someone we love, grief can overwhelm us for a while. When you lose your mother, your soul may actually cry out for the source of love, because the loss of a parent triggers within us the much deeper loss of the love of God, and it is this love that our soul is always yearning for. Human grief can actually trigger the deeper grief and longing of our soul.
Grief can be so powerful that we can even feel as though we are dying of it. When we are in the grip of deep grief, we will not feel any fear or anger because our energy will be too low to experience these higher vibrational emotions. Grief has a very low vibration, even lower than fear! Some people try to suppress their grief, or the anticipation of grief, but I urge you to face your grief in a healing mediation before someone you love actually dies. The experience of grief can be so deep and healing, but most of us do not dare to plunge into it.
I strongly advise you to go to imagine going to all the funerals of all your loved ones so that you can look into your fear of losing them before it actually happens, because it will happen one day. My own mother’s death triggered deep grief in me. But please understand that this deep grief is inbuilt into our existence, because we have all separated from, and therefore lost, our Source or God Himself.
When you are going through the grieving process, you just have to surrender yourself to it. But if you can connect to the light during a deep meditation, and then merge back into Source, your grief will naturally subside for a while. You can actually experience being embraced by God’s Love, and this love so surpasses all human forms of love that it dissolves any sense of loss or grief. But we have to be very awake to really know that in reality we can never lose anything.
From a normal, human point of view, this is a very cruel world. We all suffer so much loss, fear and pain. We have all had our hearts broken at least once, and we all have to face losing someone we love so much. Even when we are awake, sometimes we just have to surrender into the pain of loss and grief. All we can do is to feel the pain and pray ‘God help me through this’. When we are fearful or angry, there as so many things we can do to heal our pain, but when strong grief strikes, it can feel as though it is overwhelming us for a while.
It is hard to imagine what grief really feels like until a very close loved one dies. Then we can feel consumed by such deep pain and loss. So if someone close to you is going through the grieving process, please do your best to stay with them. Stay in touch and do whatever you can to support and comfort them. Grief can trigger a lot of guilt or regret in our minds, and then this can lead us into a downward spiral energetically and emotionally unless we can talk our guilt through with a dear, non-judgemental friend so that we can release it. (listen Jason’s Talk “Helping A Friend Through Grief”)
When you are grief-stricken, your egoic mind will try and blame you and make you feel guilty. For example, you may say to yourself. ‘You were a useless son/daughter. You should have done so much more for your father/mother’. When we get caught up in guilt like this after a loved one has died, we may even feel suicidal, or simply lose the will to live. Moreover, some widows or widowers, for example, may start to fade away after their long-term partner dies. It is as though they are just sitting waiting to die. You cannot ask someone just to cut through their deep grief, or their suicidal thoughts. You cannot tell them to pull themselves together and get over it. All you can do when someone is grieving like this, it to nurture them and support them as much as you can.
If you yourself are going through the grieving process, please keep praying and surrendering to a higher power. Sometimes, it may be very helpful to distract yourself from your grief for a while, for example by watching an action packed movie. But do not suppress your tears. Crying is a very good way to process your grief. You may sometimes feel as though you will never stop crying, but I can assure you that sooner or later your overwhelming grief will subside and your tears will dry up.